I’ve been silent for a few months with my writing and contributing to this blog, which honestly, should scare the hell out of everyone, as silence with me can only mean one thing…. more cauldron stirring.
My lack of contributions simply meant that I was occupied with other things, not that the mouthy witch waved the white flag and gave up… oh, cont-rare! I have a TON of new material to work with! (It’s just a matter of finding the time). So.. Grab a bottle of Meade, pop some popcorn, sit back and watch the fur fly…
Exactly a year and three months after I took to the keyboard and vented my feelings and disdain about having a law of ethics I do not follow shoved in my face, my article, Shove Your Three-Fold Somewhere Else seems to still be getting knickers in a twist.
In the past week alone, since it’s second round of going viral, I’ve received probably over a hundred emails and messages either cheering me on for it, or scolding me some more.
I appreciate the sentiments on both sides (lol) but I didn’t write that piece for validation, approval, to make friends or to be told to apologize…
Because I won’t.
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I also won’t change or alter the article in any way, as was (albeit politely) suggested by a Wiccan I have come to know and respect. Why? Because I don’t back peddle. I’m also not easily strong-armed. And by the way…. the only person I am oath-bound to is myself… that is the tradition (If we’re going to throw traditions around) I was born into, initiated into and live by, which makes me the kind of witch who is a nightmare for those who don’t want a mirror held up to them. If I’m going to lay a verbal smack-down or talk shit, well, then I’m also going to own it. Many people write and post things in a fit of emotion, click, “Post” and then once they’ve calmed down a bit, or are “persuaded” otherwise, panic and delete it, only to realize that someone, somewhere has already screen captured it to haunt the author with it for years to come.
Guess what? I’m not one of those people. RARELY will I write and publish or post something I will later remove (and when I do, it’s usually because I accidentally posted it twice, or found some serious typos all because I type too damned fast.. in one instance, I did it to call someone out and get their attention..and when I did, and we talked, I removed it because it then became between me and them and not me, them and everyone else on the planet whose eyes happened to be prying that day). I think long and hard before I post something… that article alone went through 18 edits and took 3 hours to write, because I wanted to make sure it wasn’t pure, raw emotion when I finally committed to putting it out there into the world. It may have been personal for some who read it, but rest assure, it wasn’t personal for me (which I’m sure will make some feel all warm and tingly inside knowing this)… In other words, you might consider me a premeditated kind of person. I know exactly what I am doing when I do it.
I also wouldn’t hold out for an apology from me either, because it’s not coming. If someone was offended by what I wrote, or their feelings were hurt, well, I’m not responsible for anyone else’s feelings or emotions. It was suggested I amend the original article to say “Some Wiccans” … that’s not going to happen either. Those Wiccans who are “Old school” as they call themselves, or who simply don’t partake in the fluffy ridiculousness out there I called out in that article really have no need to be offended at all, if you don’t do it, then why take it personally? It doesn’t apply to you, right?
And if you don’t do it, it should bother the hell out of you that there are those out there who call themselves Wicca and make a fairy tale circus out of the tradition you take so seriously. “Some Wiccans”… hmmmm… well, I hate to be the one to tell you, (actually, I’m sorta gloating about it) that THOSE are the people who are representing the rest of you. Anyone can be as upset, uptight or angry as they want, but I am simply one voice of many who felt the way I did when I wrote that piece, the only difference, was that I went out on a limb, grew a set of crystal balls and said something on a platform that can’t or won’t be later hidden. Why?
Someone said to me, after reading the article, “You’re obviously not BTW” (British Traditional)… well, no shit Sherlock! That just shows how incredibly narrow-minded many of us have become, when they hear “Traditional witch” they automatically think BTW. To think that anything or anyone outside of Wicca isn’t a witch at all!
In the words of the great Malficent:
Getting back to accountability…
I own what I do and I own what I say. I will never, ever tell a person what I think they want to hear, or to appeal to the masses. When approached by someone looking for a mentor in the Craft, the very first thing I tell them is that I am NOT Wiccan, should they be expecting to learn or be initiated Wicca. That’s the first half of accountability, responsibility. What the Wiccans have going on out there are these people who go to their local Barns N Noble New Age and Spirituality section, pick up a nifty “Love and Light” book from Llewellyn , read it, self initiate, and then call themselves High Priest or Priestess and run around handing out glittery butterflies and finger shakings, hide behind Karma (which is an Eastern philosophy, by the way) and identifying with the lot of initiates who took the time and effort to actually learn, earn and carry their titles with grace. They’re like the Witches version of a Jehovah, knocking on everyone’s front door whose practices and ethics differ, and cramming that three-fold pamphlet down our throats… That “Pamphlet” is like a train wreck… you don’t want to look but the curiosity is irresistible, and so we do, just so that we know exactly what level of delusional we’re dealing with– and wish we hadn’t.
It’s ok… if we just say 10 “Hail Mary’s” and two “Our Father’s” and a “Blessed Be” or two… we’re all good…
They can best be compared to someone picking up the King Solomon version of the Bible, reading it from cover to cover, then going over to Costume Express and buying a white collar and calling themselves ordained and holding confession for the public on Sundays. If any of the Wiccans who had the “Hmph!” waving their pearly white athame’s and shaking their wands in the air reaction to that article because everything I said is “Simply not true!” all I have to say is,
What do you suppose would happen to a Private First-Class in the military who was caught telling others he was a Sargent Colonel? Whoa…. would there be a shit pie dinner served! I make this comparison because many initiates consider themselves to be among the “Elite”
(cough, cough) yet do absolutely, positively nothing, nada, zip, zilch ZERO about the misinformation out there freely dished out by those who call themselves Wiccan and, in the eyes of an initiate, are NOT. (Go ahead if you don’t want to believe me, ask an initiate if a non-initiate calling themselves Wiccan are truly considered Wiccan).
There are countless threads and discussions via social media that talk about this author or that one who is “Very Fluffy” in the work they produce, or call it outright hogwash… but it doesn’t go any farther than that discussion…..
Writing an educated and informative rebuttal, write that author, write the publisher, or getting your asses out there in the public on a public platform and educating others on what it is and what it is not….
Not leaving the rest of us, who don’t follow a tradition that has made it into the hands, eyes and ears of the masses, to deal with these people who besmirch it, give the rest of us indigestion and migraines and clean up the messes THEY made… it’s not our monkey, and it’s not our circus, yet when the dust settles after a go around with one of them, scarcely is there an initiate anywhere to be found to set those people straight.
Writing an article addressing someone who disagrees with you and signing it with your name and not “Anonymous”…
The truth is that THIS is how the rest of us view your traditions. Step outside of your tight-knit circles and open your eyes. Go ahead… dip your little toe into the water, it’s ok, most of the rest of us don’t bite….
But you’ll start seeing exactly what the rest of us are seeing and having to deal with.
I’m sure there are more, but I personally know of two witches (One Gardnerian, one Alexandrian–both HP/HPS) who do a remarkable job with educating and mentoring. Both are high-profile, but I won’t mention their names here because I didn’t ask their permission to do so prior to writing this. Suffice it to say, I wish they could be cloned, because they do what they do well, and because the rest of us wouldn’t be getting so damned frustrated.
These are two individuals who understand accountability and responsibility in the Craft.
Here are just EIGHT of the many comments received in support of the article, and what is being done out there to others… if this doesn’t open up even the staunchest initiate’s eyes, then absolutely nothing will:
I loved the article I shared it …. If they don’t like it they need to get off their fluffy asses and change it
Thank you for saying what the rest of us are thinking!
I get so tired of myself and others being berated when someone asks for magickal help on these so-called witch pages.
I agree that we don’t appreciate being spoken to as if we’re a naughty child who has no idea the consequences of our actions. If you don’t know that, you have no reason being a witch. It’s such a bunch of bull to be looked down on by what I’ve considered to be “my kind”. Anyway, thank you for putting it out there for those that wish to judge.
I liked the article and I believe it needed to be said.
see I agree completely with you, I have never followed the three fold law, it is in my opinion nothing more than the hell christians use. It is is a way of maintaining conformity and obedience. Does anyone with real research knowledge actually think the ancient practitioners sat around worrying about some cosmic revenge??
I read your article and found it enlightening for someone like me who is consciously new to the craft. Everywhere I looked and read there was the rule of three, fill your enemy with love and light and similar tripe….this is not me as a person and I genuinely struggled with this rede..
Love it. Needed to be said.
Call me what you like, at the end of the day, I can still lay my head down at night and sleep well because, **shrugs** it was honest. #Sorrynotsorry